Meet Judy Bartkowiak
with 30 years of helping our young people
(and those who love them)
thrive emotionally and
feel safe, seen and empowered
I've spent years helping sensitive anxious children, teens and their overwhelmed parents with emotional wellbeing, confidence, regulation and healing.
Reiki, crystals, intuitive work, art and other creative therapies, energy healing, mindfulness and emotional support are a deeper expression of the same underlying purpose.
I am passionate about making a difference in the lives of children, teens and young people.
I will encourage you to let me help you heal any of your own childhood or relationship issues that could be affecting your relationship with your child.
I also find helping you heal the birth story of your child with can make huge shifts.
Experienced NLP Master Practitioner/Trainer
EFT Advanced Practitioner/Trainer (tapping)
Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner
Specific training for:
Pregnancy and Birth Trauma
Early Childhood Trauma
Grief
Eating Disorders
PTT (picture tapping) Practitioner/Trainer
Reiki Master /Teacher
Author of Understanding children and teens and Empower your kids
Secrets of Neuro Linguistic Programming
and
The Engaging NLP & EFT series of family workbooks
BROWSE ALL BOOKS IN THE BOOKSHOP
Helping children and teens understand and manage their emotions leading to increased confidence and resilience
Trauma trained for birth and early childhood events
Change is in your hands means that I will help your child or teen to express and understand what they feel, through creative activities such as abstract expressive art, crystals, clay or Lego modelling, together with EFT Tapping, Reiki, and NLP so they learn how to manage those emotions and make choices that will bring them joy.
I will not 'fix' them because they are not broken.
So, welcome to my online home, come in, sit down and let’s chat.
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THERAPY
In the last five years particularly since Covid, kids have become much more aware of mental health and more likely to be googling and checing out AI for their symptoms.
They want to understand their emotions, manage them and give them a name.
This often leads to them asking mum or dad to get them some help.
Lots of schools offer help also GPs and CAMHS but talking therapy (usually what's offered) isn't right for everyone. Yes I can offer talking therapy, it's what I trained in first but it's geared towards the left brain, the logical thinking brain.
Our feelings and emotions are not logical. Of course as parents and teachers we are looking for reasons so we can fix it for them but these feelings often stem from early childhood, sometimes from birth or pregnancy where the child's preconscious brain has created a belief or decision which is now causing a problem.
They will not remember what happened so the soloution cannot be found in the left brain.
I have a great many ways to help kids find and heal these beliefs and feelings using creative approaches.
If you know your child would be resistant to therapy please check out the courses which appear to be largely playful or instructive but still enable me to help them even when they won't admit they need help.
KIDS COURSES
Many children and teens ask their parent to find them someone to talk to. I always check this at the discovery call if it hasn't already been mentioned as I'm not in the business of having kids 'sent' to me and we all know that a child needs to be willing to engage if we want to connect and work together.
The Therapy section is really for these kids. They want to be there and want to make changes.
But this isn't always the case. Some children may know they need to change what they're doing in order to make friends or not get into trouble at school, feel sad or anxious etc but they can't face the idea of being asked questions.
These kids courses are for these children. They are creative, playful and yet allow the child or teen to express what they're struggling with by projecting their feelings onto clay, paper, lego etc.
Be connecting with the issue subconsciously they are then able with my help to use EFT tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) to release its emotional charge.
Other courses can help them understand how their mind works and create new resourceful beliefs and behaviours. These are more talking based, less creative but enormously life changing when they realise that what they believed about something is not a fact and is very easy to change to make a resourceful belief.
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TRAINING
The training section is all about training you.
I love to share what I know and as I'm constantly learning, reading, listening to podcasts, taking training courses and seeing clients, I'm learning all the time so Ihave lots to share!
I train parents who want to be better able to help their children. Many are in the Home Ed community, others are teachers themselves or social workers or have children who have 'special needs' but frankly I feel every child's needs are unique because each has had a different childhood and family story, even siblings didn't experience their parents in the same way.
The main course I offer is the NLP & EFT Kids Practitioner training which can enable you to set up your own practice and of course add the training into your own coaching business or role in a company or school.
If you are an existing NLP Practitioner and just want to study the modules you want then you just pay by the module. The same is true if you are an EFT Practitioner.
Perhaps you want to get certification in NLP or EFT but not related to kids at all, more for yourself or work. That's also possible.
Just ask!
Other courses are specific and are based on books I've written such as:
Be a happier parent with NLP
Empower your kids
Self Esteem Workbook
NLP Workbook
Understanding children and teens
NLP & EFT for Sport
NLP for Work
NLP for Weightloss
Check out my books in the bookshop
Are you a teacher?
I can come and train you and your team in EFT for your pupils.
Many schools are introducing EFT at registration to get kids in a calm learning state.
They repeat it after lunch break to reset for the learning in the afternoon.
Once kids learn these techniques they can apply them themselves and manage their emotions calmly.
You'll find EFT also really helps you with stress and all the demands of your difficult job.
Are you a school counsellor or work in SEN
Let me share some techniques with you to help you in your valuable work.
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ENERGY HEALING
Energy Healing is a term we use for modalities, or ways of working, that focus not on our thinking left brain but on the energy in our body.
When we get stressed and anxious, angry, frustrated, sad etc this affects the way the breath moves through the body and it can often feel stuck and need to be released. If we don't release this stuck energy it can keep churning and churning and messages go up to the left brain asking why they're feeling lie this or trying to apply solutions or reasons but as there often aren't logical reasons, they just start making up stories. These stories can be "I'm not good enough" or "I don't matter", "no-one loves me", "I don't have any friends" and so on.
These feelings want and need to be released so when we use EFT tapping we combine saying what we want to release with tapping using our hands, on the different tapping points in the body or on the fingers.
As we tap, the energy shifts and releases the feeling we're tapping on. It does this really quickly so it is an excellent technique for kids to learn, and us of course.
There are various Energy healing Techniques I use, some combined with creative activities, crystals, art, Lego modelling and others involve Reiki using crystals and essential oils.
You don't have to know what you're tapping on. Many clients just tap on "all these feelings' because they feel so overwhelmed.
Matrix Reimprinting is a specific energy healing technique which allows us to go back in time to heal your child's traumatic birth, your own childhood or specific traumatic events.
Our body can hold stuck energy of sadness, grief, loss, betrayal, abandonment, tapping and hands-over energy work (Reiki) can reset your energy body and leave you feeling a sense of peace, calm and freedom.
As an EFT Trainer and Matrix Reimprinting Advanced Practitioner, we can dispense with content and lots of talking and focus instead on how you are feeling, using the acupressure points (like Acupuncture but without the needles) to find what your body is storing, and release it.
Energy Healing works well for all ages especially for overwhelm and when you just can't find the words.
Always seek your GP's advice regarding your health condition. See disclaimer on contact page.
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A little bit about me
When I was growing up it was not ok to share feelings, it was considered a sign of weakness. Instead we were encouraged to go ‘kick a ball about’.
Sport or exercise was the solution for everything!
As a result, I had no idea what to do with my anger, anxiety, sadness and sometimes in my young adult life, despair and extreme loneliness.
I had a very successful Market Research career working in the children’s entertainment world and whilst it was lucrative and great fun,
I felt I could use my children’s insight in another way.
I wanted to help my younger self and I wanted to do whatever I could to ensure that children like me and
young adults would have the tools I lacked and that I had now learnt and benefited from.
In my life as a wife and a parent, I have felt a failure very often, not heard, not understood and alone.
I now realise that I was looking to others for love and to complete me.
If this is how you feel, my Energy Healing space will be a comfort and an inspiration as I help you make that journey to loving yourself unconditionally.
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“Work is love made visible”
Kahlil Gibran
A note from me
Over the years, I’ve used my creativity and imagination to apply the tools I’ve learnt to working with all ages.
If you’re into the names , they are NLP, EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, Essential oils, Crystals, Art Therapy, Energy Alignment, Reiki, Emotion Code.
But I am more than the sum of my parts.
If you or your child needs to walk around the garden and talk on a bench we can do that. If they want to draw or paint, they can do that.
If they want to stroke the dog while they talk then he’s very happy for them to do that. If they don’t want to talk at all that’s also fine.
Healing takes place at all levels and needs to happen in a place of love and trust. I can provide that space.
Equally if you want to call me and just ‘pick my brains’ that’s lovely – here’s the number
If my way of working inspires you – think about how you could inspire the young people in your life and in your community – just head to the training room.
If like me you love your sports or have a child or teen who want to improve then go to the gym
Books are a good way to start your journey for you and your child – so settle down and browse my books, maybe one will catch your eye.
Judy
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Telephone: +44 (0) 1628 660618
Mobile: +44 (0) 7917 451245
Berkshire, United Kingdom
